The reveddit browser extension is pretty good, notifies you of all your reddit comments that are getting invisibly deleted (probably more than you think)
I'm not saying I want conformity of the UI's across instances. Maybe my original comment wasn't worded great, but I think ultimately it's a drawback of the decentralised nature of the threadiverse. People land on an instance and make an assumption that it's all like that.
Perhaps part of the sign-up wizard then? Like add a new section to it saying that FYI terms are different here?
But yeah it could be good to use a different name, if a good replacement could be found?
Like at worst, even just the word "Def" as in Default search mode.