i actually dont like this argument too much, like okay, calling something gooner is dumb, same as prohibiting media from being horny, I'm a fic writer who writes a ton of kink topics, i absolutely don't want that

jolittlelene :neocat_agere_heart:

i actually dont like this argument too much, like okay, calling something gooner is dumb, same as prohibiting media from being horny, I'm a fic writer who writes a ton of kink topics, i absolutely don't want that

but i think it's really hurtful to say like, "boo!! sex" or "who the fuck cares"

i care. I'm ace and sex repulsed and a lot of people are, I don't like the mocking tone that's being put to someone not being comfortable with sex. Your argument is good, but ends badly by mocking a trait and you end up hitting queer people who just have trauma,

i think lewd stuff is absolutely okay in media, i just think it should be warned of the contents to prevent panic attacks for me and for similar others

@tjhexf@transfem.social yeah! sex negativity is bad, sex repulsion is not

Klaus Frank

@tauon @tjhexf

I don't know, are you sure being "repulsed" by it isn't also bad? I mean if you don't like it you'd just not like it. But I may just be taking it too literal...

@agowa338@chaos.social @tjhexf@transfem.social people can be repulsed by sex for various reasons. some are reactionary (bad), some are for other reasons like strong asexuality or trauma (fine)

Klaus Frank

@tauon @tjhexf

Ok, I think I'm in fact taking that statement way too literal then.

I was going by the definition of the word. "repulsed" is a negative emotion (regardless of context) after all.

However if it is also "fine" or not is an entirely different question. That is very subjective and only for oneself (NOT others) to decide and if one considers it to be "not fine" to seek therapy or something.

@agowa338@chaos.social @tjhexf@transfem.social by fine i don't mean, like, "there's nothing wrong with you" or whatever (that's not right but i can't think of another way to phrase it), i mean more like "do you dislike sex for a reason that is negative to people who do not dislike sex", which the whole "gooner" thing is, but being a sex repulsed asexual isn't (maybe you're right about the wording thing though)

Klaus Frank

@tauon @tjhexf

I'm also ace but not sex repulsed. I however still despise how it destroys otherwise good movies and shows because of it being obviously only put into it for "fan service" or "being horny".
If I'd like to watch porn I'd be watching porn but I don't. Same as with stupid illogical "enemies to lovers" dynamics...

Do you mean something like that by "repulsed" or quite literally you'd feel sich and have to throw up by an unexpected sex scene?

@agowa338@chaos.social @tjhexf@transfem.social i don't really know, but i feel like that feeling is valid. those kind of things should have content warnings on them that say "this has sex in it" so you don't need to see it if you don't want to

olivia, :neofox_sapphic: :neofox_trans:

@tauon @agowa338 @tjhexf i mean, orgs like the bbfc and their classification systems exist for a reason

olivia, :neofox_sapphic: :neofox_trans:

@tauon @agowa338 @tjhexf it would be great if stuff like that were more visible

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i actually dont like this argument too much, like okay, calling something gooner is dumb, same as prohibiting media from being horny, I'm a fic writer who writes a ton of kink topics, i absolutely don't want that