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  • Cheerful Tuesday... what's made you laugh or smile recently?

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    I had ordered some food, and they forgot a side dish. What usually happens here is that they will send someone just to deliver the missing item. Which I think is ridiculous. So I phoned them up just to let them know, and also perhaps get it another time. They said I should just mention I'm the person with the missing dish the next time and they'll add it. When I called a week later, they immediately remembered and did not only send the missing side dish but also a big salad for free
  • Music Monday [Week 04] - What have you been listening to lately?

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    Always starting the radio with either Kreator - Phobia or Electric Callboy - We Got the Moves depending on the mood.
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    I am poor, but I will gladly donate to your GoFundMe after you get arrested. This is God's work.
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    thanks for a long, well thought reply, though i also disagree with you on a lot of things. If that was B&W, shouldn’t you agree that forcing screens in schools is also seeing things in B&W: no good teaching can be achieved without using high-tech. I am not saying it is hi tech or low tech. I have been taught primarily on white/black boards (third world country), and in college was thee first time that we had presentations or digital drawing boards. I know it can be taught the old way, because that is how i was taught, but here is why i feel digital can be done better teachers can be creative - you have infinite canvas - you can write as much as you want, you can show 3d visualisations which you for practical purposes can not with drawings - it is tedious. students can focus on learning instead of copying the board - I have seen that a lot of students have always just copied what teacher says or writes, and consider that attending a class. I know it is partially teeacher's fault for not being interactive, but when you can actually focus on listening, and do not have a rac against time. sudents who miss the class are no longer 3rd world, they still get the same information, obviously not the same as attending in person, but this is the best you can get unless you record all lectures always. I in my last 2 years started typing my college lecture notes instead of hand writing them. problems with me are that - i have a really bad hand writing (just because i learned writing cursive, does not mean i write nicely. i mad a deliberate switch around 8th grade to never write cursive again because my cursive was so bad. and my current writing is still so bad). I also share my notes with a lot of students, and it is much easier to have a digital file, in a folder, which i can sync to a shared folder, which is shared with others. It improves my typing, and also improves my typesetting skills. for diagrams, i mostly draw with touchpad, and it takes more time for me to draw in the beginning, but for example in my case, in physics, a lot of our diagrams iterate over others, so i can start with a copy of my older diagram, and then save time. They mimic it. They are not equals. why do they have to. consider this. before reading and writing was something almost everyone did, people used to hear stories from elders or lecterns or a priest. that involved different skills. you had to understand the expressions, intonations, and pauses. I as a person whose primary method of "consuming" stuff is reading, am very bad at understanding pauses. for a lot of poems, just reading them does not feel "special", just rhyming, but when heard, it is like whole different experience. a lot of what people want to replicate the hand writing in digital world is involving multiple senses. for example, when you hand write, you feel the paper, you feel different amount of "touch/pain" for writing different letters or numbers, and almost all your senses are involved (except of taste and smell maybe). you feel what you wrote. you can feel the differencee between the letters written when you are less tired vs more tired, or when writing somethign difficult. I understand you do not get the same thing with typing. I can tell you that, even if it hurts my arguments, but it is not that much worse. you still see stuff, you can also tell tiredness with mis-spelled words. maybe not the paper friction, or your hand being chafed, but maybe that is a good thing. (how that emitted light impacts brain (or not) and increase fatigue. this is one of the common "myths" i think people have. yes most screen are self emmisive (unless you use e-ink, then it is also reflective), but there have not been conclusive findings on fatigue. what you can have is too white or too bright, or you can have disturbed circadian rythm. but you can changed color temperature of screen, or choose to reduce brightness. The (lack of) privacy. I am not going to speak about anything privacy related - it is a solved problem - use foss software. it is there, you can choose to use it. you can choose not to buy windows or apple or google ecosystem. Compare that to learning a new keyboard layout is that a thing? i never had to learn a different layout, the qwerty remains the same. or are you talking about other keys changing - even then, you can choose not to buy bespoke hardware with custom key layouts. also with handwriting - does that not depend on what you use to write - pencils (and different grades like 1B, 2B, 4F require different strengths to hold or pressure to apply), pens (ball point, gel, fountain, or something else) or even with same kind, with each model of each brand, how and where you grip, how much pressure you apply changes. you can choose to buy same pen/pencil for your life, but so can you choose to buy a keyboard. a new UI in an app (hello, MS Word’s Ribbon) use foss stuff where you get to choose ui. or you can even make one if you like none of the existing things. new version of the OS i hate windows and macos for ruining updates. I use rolling distros (constantly updating) and i look forward to updates. in foss world, updates mean new features or better performance, or ease of use. I have a system that i have designed (in notebook - handwwriting design - think of it as choose what paper you use, or how your noteebook is bound or what the sleeves are made of. some people (me) prefer spiral bound, some prefer strung/stapled). Longevity i have 12-13 year old laptop still working, a 6-7 year old one still working. a 3 year old one which failed because of outer body failing, because of my stupidity, but still functional as a server, and my current laptop is a year old. I think in these 13 years, going through 4 laptops may be oon higher side than average population, but in one year, i can go through about 1500-2000 pages of notebook very easily. now add books. and i (and my family) have always chosen to use second hand or lent books because of financial reasons, but still th amount of paper used in all this is a lot. consider this. my laptop at idle consumes 2-3 W of power. on video playback with wifi and bluetooth - 5 W. If i use paper and books (not self emmisive) - i atleast need a bulb. depeending on how big my room is or how direct the lighting is, youu need 10-20W LEDs for illumination. Yes you can go out and read in sun, but that may not be out, or there are clouds, or it is too hot or too cold. Energy savings can happen with this. paper is cheap and instant (and the following few points about cost) it is not. i have come from point where we would tar blank pages from used notebooks (still do) to reduce waste or reducee costs. buying a notebook, lets say a 200 page noteebook for 1$ (i do not know how are they priceed where you live). I for 1 course, depending on content and duration, can go through 0.5-1.5 or 2 notebooks, lets consider an average of 1. in my school times, i would use 5-6 notebooks each year (maybe 2 for maths because of longer problems). for 5 years, that is 551 = 25$. that is very less, but consider this. second hand books - with 5$ for 1 book and 5 books a year (in college courses, i may use more than 5 books for a single course, but they can be lent from library, so still considering 5 books), and 5$ for cost (rental or secondhand or photostats), that is 555 = 125$. in total that is 150$. my current laptop is 450$ 8 core 24 gib ram 512gib storage, and decent build. yes that is still 3x more expensive, but that is not a chap and instant vs expensive and slow thing. it is quantisable. and this is consider a well spec'd laptop, you can go 4 core, 8gib ram, 128/256 gib storage, and you can get it down by 100$ more. that needs much more regular updates and upgrades. again with updates -- how badly have MS or appl messed people's expectation of updates. people in other spheres do not get afraid of updates - your steel bars can now hold 1.5 more load because we changed alloying composition - oh great. your cpu performs 10% better because of new vulkan updates - oh great. in ms apple owrld - your notepad may or may not use ai to analyse sentiments of your random vegetable list, and use 20% gpu/npu to find spelling mistakes, where th usual/older dictionary spell checks used 0.5% cpu, which was optional. Again - use foss software and updates become good. browsing the Web on a 15+ years old laptop? you can choose to use 15 year old websites - like wiki and lemmy (not 15 year old, but designed with same principles). the way you do not expect 200 year old physics book to explain QM to you (it was not yet formulated), you should not expect your 15 year old laptop to run modern AAA websites. or if you want to watch youtube on it, do it the way we did 15 years ago - download video -play with video player. or use a lighter youtube client. you can not really blame poor laptop for not bing as performative, as you do not blame old books for not having modern information. which is not what most schools use, right? chrome os is linux, so most schools these days by "linux" laptops. yes chrome os is not as flexible as "usual" linux, but it is still performant. ever increasing shit ton of tracking scripts and ads (and purely visual effects scripts) these are again complaints of closed platforms. In my mind if a school or state/district or country chooses to provide digital hardware, it is there responsibility to select suitable software. they way it is responsibility to not havee "cheesy magzines" in school library, you should have a content blocker (ublock origin) to block these. making that laptop/tablet a… desktop, tied to a power outlet most laptops (basically anything thicker than 2 cm) has a replaceable battery. you can just do that. again modern apple design principle of sticking/soldering things is stupid. my older laptops could not hold charge either, i got batteries changed for 10-15$. the way a old book requires restoration, you need to take care of laptop. if it is not touch screen (most laptops are not), you can buy a 30-40$ sketching tablet, that is connected simply via usb. You can upgrade laptops. (i replace hard drives on my old laptop with a ssd, and it feels like 50% better in responsiveness, even with 10 year old cpu). I cannot not notice the increasing numbers of young people that are barely able to read this is not a laptop/notebook problem. it is problem of only consuming information through videos, with subway surfers playing beneath, someone dancing on top, and relevant info on the corner. as you said, screens are not restricted for personal use, where they actually should consider better educating the children. instead, we restrict the laptops in classes. an equivalent situation some 80-50 years ago would be banning of newspapers, because people are only reading cartoons, or the cheesey magzines, because they all use same medium. consider this - you wrote some 1000 word reply, to which i wrote 1000 more. neither of us would likely even write a 50 word letter to each other, just because we are very less likely to meet irl. if we restrict th good parts of tech, just because bad exists, it would restrict people like you and me from debating. I still consider this productive - we both are using our minds. screen is just a medium. where teaching/learning has become ‘digital’ and at the same time where screens have become so prevalent no and yes. in my third world country - still only like 40% people have screens. women even less. kids are practically just as bad (you can say that is because of lack of screens), but it is not because the kid has screen. it is because of what kid watches on screens. i am very pro choice - govt/schools should not restrict what kids watch - that is parents responsibility. They see adults wasting their lives on screens (be it TV, streaming, social media, YT or TikTok, playing games, and so on). None of that being an issue in itself, the fact this mostly is only that becomes the issue. now that is problem with adults. if they see adults reading on screens, they would do that. Most of us have probably watched the ‘Lord of the Rings’, right? I have not, but mostly because i do not watch much stuff, and english stuff is a small section of small pie. Hence I can not comment on anything about writing. But I understand the general principle - manga vs anime, book vs movie adaptation, it is often the case that for a nice source, the adaptation is not as good. Kids will do what they see adults around do. Be it to constantly hate on people that are different to them (or don’t share their world view), or to become addicted to their screens. so i consider my self addicted to screens - yes, but whenever i think of any specific thing, i do not feel it is addiction. i read articles, i do some work stuff, i read forums, i watch youtube (educational as well as entertainment). In that sense, I do not find screens bad, as i see them as a flexible window to larger world.
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    The phrase "I love you" is most meaningful when it is spontaneous, unrehearsed, and not spoken reciprocally. Parents use it all the time as a means to have you manage their emotions. Hearing it feels good, especially for managing their insecurities. It could also be a tool for control. When they say it expectantly, you saying it back to them has the psychological effect of lessening any anger or animosity you're holding toward them. This is a useful tool used individually on your own accord, but in this context it's emotional manipulation. When your mom gets upset that you don't say it back, she is struggling to manage her emotions and is getting you to do it for her. This process is called parentification.
  • It's Sunday, how are your pets doing?

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    She's chillin' through an awesome playoff NFL game. Winter
  • We need micro transactions for FOSS and news.

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    It is a digital slavery system. If a different business model prevailed, the stalkerware junk could be removed. That realigns news with meritocracy. The right to own a part of people to manipulate and exploit really is the fork in the road where everything went wrong for civil rights. Inherited wealth is the other major issue. Large scale inherited wealth is civilization scale terminal cancer. Business acumen and intelligence are not hereditary in humans. Meritocracy rules all things. Without meritocracy the system always fails. War is usually the only way to fix the lack of meritocratic hierarchy. Japan is one of the only countries that has solved the issue civilly by preventing most of the wealth transfer. Those that cannot lead turn to exploitation as their only form of business that is reliable for returns. You cannot get more exploitive than "You will own nothing..." You have no autonomy or self determination as a citizen when you own nothing. The reason you own nothing is the chain of legislative tyranny that is rooted in digital slavery and stalkerware of the "free„ internet.
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    It’s like leaking below on to the 1st floor… like if you take too long in the shower or the water splashes in a certain way, it starts leaking… no clue how that works… The silicone caulk that seals the gap between the top of the tub and the wall may have cracked. It's a tedious task to scrape out old caulk (fresh doesn't stick to dried silicone, so for repair all the old has to be removed), but ultimately not a difficult one. Applying new silicone is basically squeezing a tube around the tub edge, but requires some attention to detail - can't leave any gaps - and for inexperienced people is pretty messy, getting silicone all over fingers smoothing and pushing into gaps while it's still wet, and it never comes out of clothes so wear stuff you don't care about when sealing.
  • It's Saturday, what have you watched this week?

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    Recently started watching the pitt, it really reminds me of a modern version of ER. Really good characters, good acting and plain old human drama.
  • Weekly thread - How is your week going?

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    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma)D
    How badly do your kids fight? Is sibling fights just... normal? Jeez, I just wrote another comment involving fights with my older brother... oh fuck I remember I was home alone with my older brother and he beat the shitout of me, and parents didn't really do much to help when they came home, they were more worried about trouble from CPS (Child Protection Services, of USA). He was also 5 years older than me so I couldn't do much. Oh fucking hell, I just remember the 2nd time I had to run away from home (not really the 2nd, more like the 2nd major one, there were some other incidents that I might not really remember, memory is blurry) The first time was in Guangzhou, China, I took a bus to mom's workplace just to feel "safe", she wasn't there since she went looking for me after grandma called her to inform her about the situation, they called the police and all, I went back home after not finding at work, I waited like 10 - 30 minutes there I think, I was thinking she might be at a break or lunch time, but nah, didn't see her. So I went home, then I saw her and a bunch of cops around the neighborhood, I felt so guilty, felt like I got in trouble, even thought it was my brother's fault I had to feel that fear to prompt me to run away in the first place (not even really running away, just looking for mom at work), I had some 小籠包 at the nearby restaurant cuz I was so hungry, I cried, I never felt so scared in my life before, I was like 6 or 7 years old I think. My mom was so shocked I even remember the bus route to her workplace (she had some electronic store sales job, I went with her to her workplace once when maternal grandmother was busy with stuff... donct remember my older brother being there, idk why, maybe grandmother took him back to our village? Or maybe grandma too him to a doctor? No clue, don't remember. so thatcs why I know where she worked. I mean its so bizzare, thinking about it, a 6 year old me remembering the precise stop to get off and remember exactly where she was at that mall/store. Bus drivers didn't give a shit about the fare thing, probably assumed I was with an adult when I got on. Nobody careed about the fact that I was an unaccompanied minor. The second time I "ran away" was in Philadelphia. I just left via the back door as my brother was chasing me around, trying to beat me. I just walked to my mother working at the nearby Chinese Bakery, didn't felt like going in since I didn't wanna feel embarassed since her co-workers were there... and I actually go to this Bakery sometimes, and I was older so this felt very embarassing and shameful... yea why the hell did I feel shame for being abused by my older brother? Anyways only 30 minutes later, she got off from work and then she saw me sitting on the floor on the street outside. She was like: "Why aren't you at home?" Then I explained about my brother hitting me. I hugged her, I cried. This is probably why I have such a strong trauma bond with my mother, even tho she herself is also emotionally abusive. Ah fuck my head hurts. Sorry for trauma dumping, I really need to get this out, it's very therapeudic for me.
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    「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」 | (aka: 鳳凰院 凶真 Hououin Kyouma)D
    Oh jeez I think I'd have to replace the "internet addiction" for "craving love from parents" I don't think I can like do a camping trip alone... camping trip with dad would be so great... actually yea maybe a camping trip with my dad only and mom not being there would be so great, an actual break from the toxicity. Parents so so busy with their stuff tho... ugh...
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    You mean the watermelon?
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    For anyone seeing this who might be from somewhere that uses metric, 5’5 is above average height for a woman, average being 5’4. Not really accurate to call yourself short. 6’5 is well above average for men. Average being 5’9. Your 4 inch difference with an average opponent isn’t going to do you much good. Besides that, being shorter means everything is proportionally shorter, including your reach. Good luck having a rapier handy when you need it. It’s not much of an advantage, but have fun with the thought. Just stop posting the same thing in different formats. Last time was a question asking if your idea was accurate, and lots of people explained how it wasn’t… and now this additional justification…
  • Weekly thread - How is your week going?

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    I'm doing quite well: just playing video games, participating in activist activities via web, relaxing, and poking my Linux installs to see what I might be able to accomplish. I might even get some cleaning done as there are only a few spots that might need a deeper cleaning.
  • What do you do with photos of Ex's mixed in your cloud backup?

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    We have AI now. Replace their face with your favorite actress or Danny DeVito.
  • Not to brag…

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    …”Be careful…don’t accidentally do anything stupid like put it on…oh no!”
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    That one has become accustomed to the abuse does not make it okay. That someone has been abused or in a bad situation does not exclude them from becoming abusers/abusive themselves (oft quite the contrary, it's the seed of how they became so, maladapting to it). I wonder how well that mother would do when measured against all of Elizabeth Shaw's stuff about how to spot a narcissist. And then there's the perspective of control dramas... sounding like a bit of an Intimidator mother and Aloof father. Once connected to source, these can become a beneficent Leader and Thinker, their more positive counterpart expressions. Watch for Interogator and Poor-me cross challenges for energy. Better to find the flow. [PS, "colors literally feel duller" is a strong sign of energy deficit from a lot of energy control dramas, parasiting of each other, unconsciously ~ at least as from the control dramas perspective. Stressors drain us and cause maladies, whether the stressors are emotional, chemical or physical, and the contrary is true too, that each area can be tended to more, to help adapt and compensate for whichever greater stressor load of the other type(s), at least, to some extent.].
  • Cheerful Tuesday... what's made you laugh or smile recently?

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    I was watching ishowspeed IRL African streams and dude is a great entertainer.
  • It's Sunday, how are your pets doing?

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    She wanted to try some of the chicken. The chicken she hates. So I gave her a sliver. She still hates it! How dare I give her some. She's very silly and I love her.
  • It's Saturday, what have you watched this week?

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    still watchin doc martin. almost done with season 4.